Episode 52: On grief, lineage, and writing through chaos, A SEAT WITH Christina Fonthes
“Nobody is born bitter, sadness is put upon us.”
In this deeply moving episode of A SEAT WITH ME, I sit down with author, translator, and truth-teller Christina Fonthes to explore the quiet wounds we inherit, and the ones we choose to heal. Christina’s debut novel, Where You Go, I Will Go, unravels the tangled threads of a mother(s)-daughter relationship shaped by migration, silence, queerness, and love. But this conversation isn’t just about the book, it’s about the life behind the story.
Unlock Your Creative Voice: Embracing Storytelling Through Any Medium
Do you ever feel pressured to fit into a specific mold as an artist? Many creatives struggle with defining themselves, feeling they need to follow a pre-set path or excel in one particular area. This pressure can stifle exploration and prevent you from discovering your unique storytelling voice.
It's easy to get caught up in the idea that you need to have a clear vision from a young age, but that's simply not the reality for most people. The journey to finding your creative purpose is often winding, filled with experimentation and unexpected turns.
The key is to embrace the freedom to explore different artistic avenues, allowing yourself to be guided by what feels authentic and fulfilling in the moment. This approach not only broadens your skills but also leads to a deeper understanding of your own artistic identity.
Finding Your Creative Home: The Power of Exploration
Many artists feel pressured to specialise early, but there's immense value in exploring various creative outlets. Trying different mediums, writing, poetry, photography, film, dance, or theater, allows you to discover your strengths and passions organically.
For example, someone might start with poetry, then move to photography, and eventually find their true calling in filmmaking. Each experience builds upon the last, shaping their unique perspective and skill set.
Real-World Application:
Don't be afraid to dabble in different art forms. Take a class, join a workshop, or simply experiment on your own. You might be surprised at what you discover about yourself and your creative potential.
Expert Tip:
Consider a creative prompt that you interpret through multiple mediums. Write a scene, photograph it, and then create a short film inspired by it.
Overcoming the Pressure to Define Yourself
It's common to feel pressure to have a clear artistic identity, especially when comparing yourself to others who seem to have it all figured out. However, resisting the urge to define yourself too early can be liberating.
Allow yourself the freedom to evolve and change as you grow! Your artistic voice will emerge naturally as you continue to explore and create.
Real-World Application:
Instead of focusing on a specific label, concentrate on the process of creating. What brings you joy? What challenges you? Let these questions guide your exploration.
Expert Tip:
Keep a journal to track your creative journey. Note your experiences, insights, and evolving interests. This will help you identify patterns and gain a deeper understanding of your artistic development.
The Importance of Play and Experimentation
Creativity thrives in an environment of play and experimentation. When you remove the pressure to produce perfect results, you open yourself up to new possibilities and unexpected discoveries.
Think of it like children playing – they're not concerned with the end product, but rather the joy of the process. This mindset can unlock your creative potential and lead to breakthroughs.
Real-World Application:
Set aside time for creative play without any specific goals. Experiment with different materials, techniques, and ideas. Don't worry about the outcome, just enjoy the process!
Expert Tip:
Embrace imperfection, always. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them. These "happy accidents" can often lead to innovative and original ideas.
Financial Freedom and Creative Pursuits
Financial security plays a significant role in enabling creative exploration. We cannot ignore that. When you're not constantly worried about paying bills, you have the freedom to pursue your passions without the pressure of immediate financial return. (The Maslow Pyramid is not wrong after all.)
This doesn't mean you need to be wealthy to be creative, but having a stable foundation can make a big difference. It allows you to take risks, experiment with new ideas, and invest in your artistic development.
Real-World Application:
If possible, create a financial buffer that allows you to pursue your creative interests without immediate financial pressure. This could involve saving money, finding a part-time job, or seeking grants or funding opportunities.
Expert Tip:
Look for affordable creative spaces or resources in your community. Libraries, community centers, and online platforms often offer free or low-cost workshops, classes, and tools.
Practical Application: A Step-by-Step Guide to Creative Exploration
1. Identify your interests: Make a list of all the art forms or creative activities that pique your interest.
2. Choose One to explore: Select one item from your list and commit to trying it for a set period (e.g., one month).
3. Gather resources: Find affordable or free resources, such as online tutorials, library books, or community workshops.
4. Set aside time: Schedule dedicated time each week for your creative exploration.
5. Experiment and play: Allow yourself to experiment without judgment. Focus on the process rather than the outcome.
6. Reflect on your experience: After the set period, reflect on what you learned and whether you want to continue exploring that art form.
7. Repeat: Choose another item from your list and repeat the process.
Conclusion
Finding your creative voice is a journey, not a destination. Embrace the freedom to explore different mediums, experiment without judgment, and allow your artistic identity to evolve naturally! By prioritising play, curiosity, and financial stability, you can unlock your full creative potential and discover the unique stories you have to tell.
So come and take,
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